"The purposes of a man's heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws
Young Adult Crisis Hotline and Biblical Counseling Center exists to provide Christian-based, sound biblical
pastoral counseling to individuals, couples and families so that people experience life change emotionally, mentally, relationally,
and spiritually. By "Christian-based" we mean that we operate from a Christian world-view that are built on Biblical principles
and recognize that we are all spiritual beings who were created to be in a relationship with God. We diligently acquire knowledge on an ongoing basis related to how people think, feel, relate and act so
that we can provide effective interventions.
Our foundation includes utilizing truths found in the Bible related to mental health issues. We believe
that it is very important to respect the fact that God gives our clients the responsibility to make decisions in their lives.
As John 1:14 reveals that Jesus is full of grace and truth, so as Christian counselors our interventions
include dealing with truth and experiencing the grace of God at the same time. Experience tells us that the presence of truth
in counseling positions us to receive and walk in grace.
As Proverbs 20:5 indicates "The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding
draws them out," we understand the necessity of exploring and resolving root issues. At the same time, we aim to help clients
to make helpful changes in present situations. Since God’s name "Emmanuel" means "God with us," we strive to create
an experience in the counseling room whereby redemptive dynamics occur between the counselor and counselee. This requires
the counselor to be "with" clients in ways that are therapeutic relationally as well as providing sound clinical treatment.
In other words, we believe that significant healing and growth occurs in the context of relationships. The dynamics of the
counseling relationship itself should be reparative, thereby providing a context for growth.
Finally, we have merely scratched the surface of what Christian Based treatment involves at the Young
Adult Crisis Hotline and Biblical Counseling center. It is our goal to relate to people uniquely (just as Jesus did in the
Gospels) since no two people are exactly alike. We do not have a single step by step blueprint that we use, rather we rely
on the Holy Spirit and the knowledge base God has enabled us to acquire to guide us to a redemptive path of recovery.
The counselors and staff of Young Adult Crisis Hotline and Biblical Counseling Center invite you to
come and experience growth so that your life may be enriched as you resolve issues that may be small or very large. Our counselors
have a wide variety of specialties and training that equip them to provide assistance with the many issues that face individuals,
couples, families, and children.
Christian Counselor and Christian Therapist
The counselor must have understanding
of the dark side of life in order to diagnose, define the root causes of sin .
a working knowledge of the definition of sin. Moreover, be comfortable about passing that knowledge onto a counselee.
Christ’s ambassador when you enter into counseling.
1)Be compassionate –
You must love the counselee enough to present him with God’s truth regardless of what truth may suggest for him. Example
the rich young ruler (Mark ). Do not force the solution on the counselee for he has a freedom of choice. Just like
the rich young ruler, he was given the freedom of choice. He can reject or accept god’s solution to his problem.
2)Listen to the problem
– You are a specialist in spiritual problems being more concerned in the
counselees’ current problem instead of probing into the past. Listening is an art. You
have the same confidence in the message of God as the surgeon has in the benefits of an operation.
3)Point the counselees to a solution
– Do not jump into a solution hurriedly before you are sure of exact nature of the problem. Many people first talk of
a “surface problem before they talk about their real problem. The word firm is important to know and not the word stern.
When you are firm, you can be compassionate, but when stern you are striving in force.Give the person a solution from the word of God in a category.
Paul wrote the believers in Thessalonica to “warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient
with everyone” (1 Thessalonians ). The term-translated therapy
indicates service rendered to people in times of turmoil. In its historic context, therapy (or counseling) is the attentive,
careful helping of others.
The history of the word “therapy,”
the Greek therapeia, with its derivatives therapon, therapeuo, and therapontos, gives birth to some illuminating meanings
for the current practice of Christian counseling. Therapeia means, “Service.”The therapon is the servant who renders careful, experienced, watchful, meticulous, skilled, obedient, painstaking
service to the one to whom he is intimately responsible.”
Notably the closest Greek synonym
for therapon is diakonos, which also means “servant.” We can glean from the resemblance of the therapist and minister.
In fact, in the ancient world, therapeia was commonly translated into Latin as ministerium. Among the Greek words signifying
“servant” (therapon, diakonos, oiketes, pais, doulos), the most intimate of these is therapon, which always refers
to personal, considerate, and confidential act of service.
The word “psychotherapy”
may sound like a purely modern term, but its roots are ancient. The New Testament example of the therapon is Jesus Christ,
the message and means of God’s intimate, healing, restoring service to all people (Matt. 9:1-8; Mark 1:32-34; Luke 4:18;
et al). God Himself is the therapon, according to the kerygma, which means “proclamation.” The therapeia, which
He renders, is the reflection of God’s redemptive love, portrayed in the banishment of demonic powers, and was made
clear in the occurrences of the last days of Jesus’ earthly ministry.
The issue of the lawfulness of
rendering therapeia on the Sabbath became a volatile point in the ministry of Jesus (Matt. 12:1-14; Mark 3:1-6; Luke 6:1-11;
et al). The religious culture of the time of Jesus’ ministry did not want to see any therapeia on the Sabbath, but instead,
they held to their own rigid interpretation of the Law regardless of the damaging consequences to those they were responsible
to serve. Jesus, however, offered therapeia on the Sabbath as a sign of the emerging reign of God, thus intruding on the holy
day with His ministry to sick bodies and tormented souls.
Many passages of Scripture depict
Jesus’ interwoven ministry of teaching, preaching and healing. His life and ministry validated Isaiah’s prophecies
of the Messiah as the Servant who comforted the anxious, encouraged the depressed, reconciled the hostile, and healed the
lame and blind. The three-fold ministry of teaching, preaching, and healing, remains a concise summary of the purpose and
mission of the church.
The authority of Scripture and
the role of psychology are important to anyone interested in Christian counseling. Some people use the term integration to
refer to the relationship of the Scriptures and psychology, but this term can be misleading. The Bible and psychology are
not two equals blended together. The Word of God is the ultimate authority by which
all theories and practices are measured.
Psychology is man’s attempt
to analyze the human condition and provide assistance. Most psychological theories contain some valid observations of human
behavior, but they are usually based upon erroneous presuppositions about both man and God. Secular theories and practices,
however, cannot provide the ultimate source of healing power: the love and strength of Jesus Christ. He is our Creator and
Savior. He is the one who can touch our deepest needs and bring light and life. God reveals the nature of man as well as His own nature.
Christian counselor’s goal, however, extends farther to include helping the client love God with all his heart and to
live by biblical values. In accomplishing this goal, the Christian counselor may present the gospel to someone who is not
a believer or is unsure of his faith. He encourages the person to confess his sin and experience forgiveness, and also, to
extend forgiveness to others. He helps the person understand proper behaviors and to take substantive steps to act appropriately
and responsibly. The Christian, has transcendent values to motivate and guide, as Paul wrote, “For the love of Christ
controls us, having concluded this, that one died for all, therefore all died; and He died for all, that they who live should
no longer live for themselves but for Him who died and rose again on their behalf” (2 Corinthians 5:14-15).
As a servant of Jesus Christ, called to love
and to strengthen others out of a full heart, the Christian counselor has limitless resources as he or she experiences the
wisdom of God and the power of the Holy Spirit. The counselor, just like the client, is in the process of growing in the knowledge
of God and is being watered, pruned, and shaped by the Spirit’s work. This process makes the counselor increasingly
effective and competent to counsel.
After, Careful study, selection, and orderly
combination of compatible concepts from a variety of sources, based on the principle that “all truth is God’s
truth.” People seem to yearn for a clear, simple answer to life’s complexities. Many people view psychological
problems through a simplistic lens and desire one definable set of problems and solutions. These simple answers, however,
seldom stand the test of scrutiny. Some religious people follow the “sin model”; some in the recovery community
follow the “medical model”; and others follow the “GRACE Model.”
The Different therapy models:
Sin Model –
Reduce all the problems of human
interaction, personality, and physical functioning to sin. In this paradigm, sin accounts for emotional distress, addictions,
and other behavioral difficulties, and idolatry is the fundamental problem of mankind. Predictably, repentance is seen as
the single solution to this problem. Individuals are responsible for both the problem and the solution.
Sickness Model – The idea that emotional problems
originate from natural causes was popularized in the early years of the Alcoholics Anonymous movement. Dr. Silkworth introduced
the disease concept of alcoholism to Bill Wilson, one of the founders of AA. Later, the disease concept was applied to drug
abuse, and still later, to codependency. In this model, the person is not responsible
for the perceived medical problem, just as he is not responsible for contracting the flu.
Indeed, many behavioral and emotional
problems are related to specific chemical deficiencies, and medical treatment is a vital part of care. The model is taken
too far, however, when it is applied indiscriminately to any emotional problem. For instance, it can be argued that alcoholism
addiction has a physiological component, but codependency does not include any identifiable, external substance.
GRACE Model – The psalmist proclaims that man is
“fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14-15). We are made in the image of God, but we are deeply fallen.
Individuals are Personally responsible for acting out in their fallen nature and the only solution is death through
the cross by the wonderful grace of God which teaches us to deny all ungodlinees. The solution is the Grace of God, not by
our own work or behavior modification can we fix our selves or our own problems.
We are deeply fallen, which includes
physical, mental, emotional, behavioral, and social aspects of our being. Virtually every problem we have is multifaceted;
its solution is then multi-modal.
For instance, an addict has chosen
coping mechanisms outside the will of God to block pain and to gain a sense of value or control. There are usually factors
outside his control, and therefore, outside his responsibility, such as childhood trauma, poor parental modeling, cultural
reinforcement, and biochemical deficiencies. The biochemical dependencies may require detoxification. Effects of depression
may require medication to enable the person to think clearly and make wise choices. New communication skills need to be learned,
and new courage needs to be acquired in order to follow through with the communication and the skills. Repentance is right
and appropriate in particular points of responsibility, but we do not repent of the wounds received from others or of biological
factors outside our control.
Though the symptoms and the contributing
causes of a person’s problems are multifaceted, the root cause of all human problems is our fallenness, manifested in
apathy toward God, rebellion, and a desire to keep control of our own lives whatever the cost. All of our relational, behavioral,
and emotional difficulties spring from this underlying condition. Physiological and psychological analysis certainly has validity
to enable us to understand the dynamics and destructive powers in our lives, and also, to help us gain insight into channeling
our motives and energies into constructive attitudes and behaviors. At the deepest level, however, the sin problem exists
and must be addressed so that people can be rightly related to the God who created them and loves them, and so they can draw
on His strength and wisdom to live more healthy lives.
Some have questioned the validity
of Christians’ use of medications for emotional problems. Gary Collins writes:
Among Christians, resistance to psychotherapeutic medication probably comes from those who believe that
drug use is a sign of spiritual weakness. Many feel that Christians should not have overwhelming struggles and psychological
problems. When stresses arise, these people feel that prayer, trusting the Lord and meditation on Scripture are the only Christian
ways to cope with anxiety. Even in Jesus’ time, however, the God-given wisdom of professional healers was not dismissed.
If the Lord has allowed us to discover new chemical tools to counteract the biological bases of human problems and to help
us cope temporarily with the stresses of life, are these necessarily wrong? When drugs distract us from facing problems or
prevent us from seeking biblically based solutions to our struggles, then using them is not right. But psychotherapeutic medications
can help us relax so that we can think more clearly. Their use is neither wrong nor an indication that we lack faith.”
The complexities of the human experience demand that counselors carefully
take a complete history on each person. Past and current emotional traumas, environmental and family difficulties, physical
problems, behavioral manifestations need to be considered in order to make an accurate assessment. The goal is that the person
will feel better, but also take steps toward knowing, loving, and following Christ. For Christians, recovery is inherently
a part of the process of sanctification, including foundational spiritual issues of our identity, repentance, and our motivations.
Bible-based teaching, prayer, meditation and other Christian disciplines must be used knowledgeably.Quite often, spiritual behaviors are held most tightly, perhaps because they falsely represent God and
ultimate authority and safety. Giving them up is both difficult and confusing to many people. We need to show the negative
effects of trying to find ultimate meaning and safety in these activities, and also, we need to present the Lord, Himself,
and the attractiveness of a vital relationship with Him.
Young Adult Crisis Hotline offers immediate emotional support by telephone volunteers trained to help young adults who may
be having relational problems, addictions, have a eating disorder, are suicidal, in emotional distress, or in need of reassurance.
Services are free, confidential, and anonymous."
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